I was recently awarded this tag for overcoming a period of gloomy days and regaining equilibrium and good cheer…. As a mom it’s hard to escape notice when life falls flat and your feelings are reflected on your face. I’ve just come through such a time and I guess I didn’t hide it very well. The tag was from my youngest child in the middle of a happy school morning–the first in a while. It was the first day of a general upswing in disposition that caught me by surprise.
So I’ve been reflecting on what brought about the change. I’d like to know if there’s a magic ‘key’ so I can use it sooner next time to escape the ”gloomies”. These are the factors I’ve considered. Maybe they will be of use to you too in escaping the ‘fog’ that life sometimes enters…
#1 Chocolate. I say this tongue in cheek. They say the stuff does have a real chemical effect that cheers you up. I did dip into my little stash of Cadbury Milk Chocolate straight from England. It was creamy and smooth and felt good going down but… I’d have to say, it didn’t have much long-term effect.
#2 Exercise. I mention this one a lot because I know it makes a big difference for me. It’s almost like a drug. Endorphins are the thing it triggers. Work hard aerobically and they’re almost guaranteed to make you feel better, afterward anyway! However this time I got on my bike and headed up the highway and it was freezing cold. My hands very quickly froze and then grew painful. I couldn’t think about much else. I resented the whole thing and returned home feeling rather spent and not really comforted. Exercise doesn’t always yield an instant gratifying result. I’m sure it had a longer term positive effect but for the moment, it seemed to intensify my gloominess.
#3 Sleep. This was my effort one day. There seemed to be a physical component to my ‘sadness’. My eyelids were heavy even though I’d slept fine, had breakfast and even been out to town and back for an appointment. It was only 9 in the morning. But I went back to bed anyway with no knowing when I’d feel like getting up! And who knows how long I’d have lain there half asleep mulling over life, my troubles, and their solutions…and trying to recall Scripture that might apply…
#4 Friends. But there came a knocking at the door. And lo and behold it was the mail lady delivering 3 cards from friends. All beautiful in picture and sentiment. All personal. All affirming. Only God could have arranged for that. And it was enough to get me out of bed and into my rocker in the sun.
#5 Sunshine. Its effects cannot be underestimated. I don’t think we know how good the sun really is for us. We’ve always been warned to avoid it. But when it shines in the thick of winter, it nourishes the soul and really seems to have a physical effect as well. Is this just Vitamin D? I wonder.
#6 Honesty with God and myself. OK so there was a particular morning where I’d reached the boiling point. Issues I hadn’t been able to resolve had built up. I had asked the Lord for wisdom and guidance but I didn’t feel like He’d answered me. I was up a creek without a paddle and failing to make any headway. I was angry. I took myself outside paper and pen in hand and (sitting in the car all bundled up) began to journal my thoughts, my complaints, my ‘case’! I took it to God and admitted where I was at. I recognized I was actually angry at God because I believed He hadn’t ‘come through’ for me! This caught me off guard. But getting it out in the open, admitting it, was a critical step because it quickly began to dawn on me that I was believing a lie. I might feel that it was true but the Word of God is far truer than any feelings I might come up with. Something might be wrong but it certainly wasn’t with God!! Just coming to that point was a big step. Because when I come in repentance I can again see Him as my Ally, not my enemy. And I can ask Him to clarify what I’m missing. He has promised wisdom. If I’m not getting it, then it’s me that’s double-minded, not Him that’s miserly! So, that was the start. Though admittedly, I was restless in my complaints and not ready to sit and hear all I needed to hear.
#7 The Word. For this little outing I had also taken my Bible, in case there might be something there to point me in the right direction. Oh my. And did it ever. James 1 had all sorts of things to say to me, about how to latch onto wisdom (ask–in faith. No doubting allowed), about how to manage trials(rejoice, they’re perfecting you), about how to receive the Word if you expect it to save your soul! (Meekly! not defending yourself and your ‘case’). It was good stuff. And some solace. But still I wanted answers. Still I was focused on my perceived troubles… [The Word came into play again later also, when I was less agitated and more ready to hear. This time it was comforting and reassuring, and probably The Key to bringing peace to my heart. Very sweet. God is faithful].
#8 Psalms and Hymns. A sunny afternoon came along. [Mind you, all these factors did not come into play on the same day. We are covering a few days’ time here!]. OK so I must get out for a walk. I chose a formerly favorite destination overlooking the Strait though nature walks had lost their appeal. Life still felt flat mostly. And I walked. When I got to the overlook I sat and began leafing through Psalms, finding the ones focused on praise and reading them out loud. I have recently bought a Message New Testament, not because I think it a great translation but because it offers a fresh perspective, modern language, in which I can express praise… So I read through some Psalms out loud as my own expression of praise. Did I feel it? Not at first. But I know it to be true. I know God is worthy of praise no matter what my circumstances may seem to be… And my heart did begin to thaw. Perhaps life wasn’t so flat… I suppose it was a beautiful day…And my soul began to be revived. I went on to sing some hymns and sign the parts I could (in ASL). This was truly therapeutic. Could this be why we are commanded to sing to one another in psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs? “It is good to sing praises to our God;…a song of praise is fitting.”(Ps.147:1)
#9 Reflection on God’s true character. Somewhere in this process, my thinking was righted by thinking about who God truly is. While I was whining along, complaining, I was believing bad things about Him. When I reminded myself that He is always loving, always good, never changing, and always keeps His promises, well… then something had to give way. Perhaps the fault was with my hearing…
#10 Taking time to Listen. To be honest, looking back I think the crisis point could probably have been avoided had I faithfully spent time in the Word every morning and consistently kept asking God for answers and listening to Him! My problem was that the more ‘tired’ I thought I was, the more I justified sleeping in past that sweet time of morning when I was guaranteed to find Him ready and waiting to meet with me alone, in the quiet, before the day was rolling. I had neglected this and it was showing… The day things turned ‘happy’ again was the day I got up and commenced an old habit called ‘Morning Pages’. This is a practice of journaling first thing in the morning whatever comes to mind. It is a unique opportunity to find out what’s really on your mind. Artists and people in pursuit of their creative genius practice this. But I find as a believer it is especially helpful to me. I not only clarify what I am troubled about but it gives me a chance to mull it over before God and hear His quiet nudges as He points out things I wasn’t aware of and suggests changes of action I might take. It has always been helpful when I take the time for it. And so I recommenced the habit ( :
And with that my days turned a corner from fog to light again. I feel like I’ve woken up again. My interest in taking pictures and blogging, in teaching Rachel and drawing, in being in touch with friends and enjoying my family… all these are coming alive again.
And oh, where is that Cadbury chocolate? I believe I’ve eaten it all up!
I’d be interested to hear what your experiences are with staying out of the ‘bogs’ of life. Leave a comment here or e-mail me ‘that we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith.’
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Thank you for once again inspiring me to look to God as my source of comfort and the object of my praise in all matters — both painful and joyous. But mostly, thank you for remainding me of the importance of contrite honesty before God and humble transparency before man. Both of these qualities are regularly present in your life and are of great worth and comfort to me and to all who know you. I love you.
You are welcome. I am glad to share the insights He gives me. Your words are kind. I am blessed to know you!
Thank you, Linda, for sharing your insights . . . beautiful, and true . . .
Here is something I wrote one time after coming out of “the bogs” and wondering the same thing, “Wow, God, how did You do that??” 🙂
Laying down my heart again
in search of relief . . .
it is certain to come
(at least this much I know
from miles past)
yet comfort is not
at my command
I search . . .
battle the urge to wallow
force my feet
my feelings . . .
trusting not my eyes
I search . . .
I struggle . . .
I wait . . .
but . . .
it is release
that finds me
takes me by surprise!
how high You lift me!
out of my self . . .
oh how I thank You
for Your grace
with Your love . . . !
(Sorry, it’s me, Sharon, I didn’t mean to be anonymous, but I was going round and round resetting passwords and trying to figure out how to leave this post, and “anonymous’ was the only thing i could get to work . . . )
I’m sorry you had trouble leaving your comment…You can just click on “Name/URL” and leave your name. Leave the URL box blank… “Anon” works too ( ;
The poem is beautiful. It has feeling mere prose doesn’t express. I hope you get to spend more time writing one of these days ( :